Legalism is a term that gets thrown around a lot, and it’s generally referring to an approach to the Bible that is law-centric rather than grace- or love-centric. A legalistic theology (or more accurately, hermeneutic), does not necessarily preclude the idea of grace; but generally pushes love and grace to a very minor role in our approach to God, and establishes our compliance with God’s laws as the primary means of approaching him.
The Pharisees of Jesus’ time were a legalistic sect. They measured their own closeness to God by their adherence to the Law, and judged harshly those who did not measure up to their own standards of law-keeping. Of course, the legalist would not describe himself that way. He thinks that his standard of law-keeping is God’s. That’s the point, actually. It’s why legalism is such a prideful point of view.
The legalist (and I know, because I spent more than the first two decades of my life steeped in this mindset) cannot see the big picture that his understanding of the law (or misunderstanding, as the case may be) is different than the next person’s. His knee-jerk reaction against moral relativism turns him toward the absolutism of Phariseeism, or legalism. Yes, it’s true that truth itself is not relative; but our understanding of it grows over time as we mature in mental capacity, life experience, and spiritual understanding. Realizing that fact ought to give us some humility and cause us to exercise an abundance of caution in holding others to our own interpretational standards of the “The Law.”
This is addressed in Paul’s letter to Rome (chapters 14 and 15) when he covers the topic of those who may have a weaker conscience on some areas of interpretation. We are not to set up our own interpretation in place of God’s. He sums up this section with the powerful admonition to accept each other just as Christ accepted us. That point is driven right to our heart if we simply ask, “how did Christ accept me?” Did he accept me after I understood all the supposedly deep and complex interpretations of God’s laws, or was it on the basis of our simple faith in Christ and obedience to the gospel? I contend the latter, which means it’s upon that same basis I am told to accept my brother.
Of course, truth is not open to whatever interpretation you or I want to make up for it. But then again, you and I are not the arbiters of truth, just the interpreters of it for ourselves. We are all in this boat together trying to come to a better knowledge of truth. We can share what we think we understand at any given moment in time, but who are we to reach a conclusion today and suddenly raise the bar for everyone else to that level? Isn’t that the height of hypocrisy, as if God’s moving the finish line right behind wherever we are at in the “race?”
Who are we to judge another man’s servant? To his own master he stands or falls. So writes Paul to the church in Rome, and it’s good advice, indeed, for trained legalists like me.
I appreciate this topic as well. The first time I heard a sermon on Legalism was a couple years ago at the church I started attending (BTW- it took about 10 years for me to be comfortable in another church outside of the CoC after the lifelong brainwash that they were the one and true church…which I always questioned as a child "how can God only love a small handful of people when there are billions of people in the world?) Not to get off topic but thought I'd throw that in. The preacher did a series of teachings on… Read more »
That has been my experience as well, because legalism puts the focus on "me" instead of "others." How am I sinning, instead of what can I do to love others? One of the kids songs my kids grew up with (in the mainline CoC, not this sect) is J-O-Y ("Jesus first, Yourself last, and Others in between"). This isn't possible as a legalist, because you are too consumed with self-doubt (under the pretense of self-examination) that you can never fully embrace the concept of radical, selfless love. That's why they dismiss churches that preach about love as "do gooders," because… Read more »
One thing taught in this sect is that COC's outside of theirs do not believe in baptism for the remission of sins which is not true! I was so scared when I went to an "off" COC that I sat in the back for a long time thinking the first whacky thing I heard I was outta there (because of my past experience in this sect). I was instead amazed that you actually learned a whole lot of the bible in classes instead of listening to hour long rebukes for something that wasn't even sinful! It took courage to leave… Read more »
And here all this time I thought the doctrine of Christ/God taught the earth how to love with Godly love…
Kevin, could you also please state your belief on the following scripture verses what the Stanton CoC. It is one scripture that haunts me.
Now I beseech you, brethren, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that ye all speak the same thing, and that there be no divisions among you; but that ye be perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgment.
I understand your concerns, but rest assured that this verse is completely misused by the church to teach something that Paul was not at all teaching. Here are my thoughts on this subject: Speaking the same thing
thanks guess idk how to use navigate your blog. I ask to keep me in your prayers. Ever since I found out of this website, I've been going through extreme insomnia. I've been involved in this church for a good five years and left 4 years ago. Half of me wants to say I love this church, the other half tells me it's what God wanted me to see and now I have seen this sect, what do I do next? To me, some judgments they hold fast onto make sense to me… mostly about discretion and modesty. What to… Read more »
I'm glad you found the blog and I'll be praying for you. Call or email me if you want to discuss anything privately (contact info in left sidebar). The questions you are experiencing right now are common–everyone goes through the process of questions, doubts, and sorting out the mixed up doctrines to clarify what is Biblical and what is not. You no doubt have a lot of doctrines of men mixed in with some good Biblical concepts on purity and morality, and it will take some time to clear your head and sort those things out. Just be patient with… Read more »
As far as navigating the site, if you want to get the full context of where I'm coming from, you'd need to start with the tabs across the top. These lay out the historical information I know about the group. Then you can start with the essays on doctrines by going to the earliest month in the archives (right sidebar) and reading from the earliest date to the most recent. Then go to the next month and do the same. Otherwise, you can explore different essays based on the top 10 most popular posts (right sidebar) or the topic "tags"… Read more »
anon 250: I'm curious. Why did you leave the Stanton Churches five years ago? The reason I ask, I'm surprised this web site is a problem to you especially when you believe you need to be redirected. Also remember this site contains the opinions of one man, Kevin.
Jimmy, I think I understand what Anon 2:50 is saying about extreme insomnia because I've experienced it myself writing the blogs. I think the reason for it is that the group demands complete and total allegiance, and when you start seeing problems with some of the doctrines, it tears you apart because you've been convinced for so long that those things were true. The mere act of questioning the possibility that they may not be true brings fear and trembling and an intense desire to figure out the truth of all the different doctrines you once accepted verbatim.
Jimmy, I left because I was not happy and extremely frightful. I seen a little of their fruits of the spirit when I seen a ten year get rebuked, yelled, and shamed in front of numerous witness. My heart was on the verge of shattering but when I witnessed that incident, it was shattered. I seen several cases before. I guess I could of have went to the teacher and hear some type of justification on it on how it was done out of love and who was I to say what love is and what it isn't. The bible… Read more »
We need to hate the sin but show Christ's love to the sinner. Jesus ate with the publicans and sinners, and was rejected by all the rule-keepers. I think we all have a good idea of what love looks like and what it doesn't look like, because God is love and we're made in his image. Only the teachings of men can "un-teach" us that pure love and teach us to replace it with fear. 1 John 4:18 – There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one… Read more »
The blog is six years old on July 19, 2019! I have a bad memory, but I went back through old posts and pages, and it looks like this was my first post on July 19, 2013. 🙂 Thanks again for everyone’s participation in the conversation here.
The amazing thing to me is that I didn’t hear about this site NOT ONCE in its first four years. They talked all about the FB page where people curse, are atheists, etc., but because your site has really helped people to see where they are wrong and are spiritually abusive, they won’t dare mention it. They certainly don’t want people to know about Merie and all her withdrawals. They don’t want people to see that the ROOT of their tree was poisoned from the beginning. They don’t want people reminded that after 50 years of them teaching about the… Read more »
Thank you, MLong. You’re a true ally in the fight against Stanton’s oppression.
Because of the church-wide ban of Facebook they don’t understand that there are two Facebook pages associated with ex-members and children of members of Merie’s group. There is a private page, I’ll call the 1st page, which was started by a couple kids raised in the church sharing stories, having some fun, remembering good times AND bad. There are some angry kids out there, understandably, and there are some funny ones too. That first page gave those kids a voice; for the first time EVER in many cases. They share their stories and poke fun at what we took sooooo… Read more »
Thanks for your input, Striped. Yes absolutely the different ways people have come out of the cult are understandable. My description was just from what they were teaching, and pretty much cursing the kids in a sense, not at all compassionate, and certainly it never felt like they were ever trying to look at themselves to find out why so many of their fruit hated “the church”. (For a time, I was one of those). Pretty much they were all just bad kids is how the parents and others reacted. Nothing about how the poor kids had been treated, how… Read more »
So true MLong! The fact that many current members blame the kids for hating the church and don’t take the blame personally or admit the church was wrong in their teaching on children is awful. What I have come to understand is that when a group, not just Merie’s group, claims to have the exclusive knowledge of the truth they should be avoided. Those type of groups change their doctrines/rules/teachings/judgments (whatever the group speak is; it’s all the same) and refuse to see the fact that their previous claim to total truth was actually FALSE. Then they claim their current… Read more »
Striped Fish, maybe one way is to show the way in which “new Understandings” are handled. there is usually no apology to the ones who were adversely affected, no trying to help them rebuild the relationships that were severed. Just simply, well we have changed our minds! And those that were affected just simply have to live with it and get over it.
and why isn’t there any apologizing done? Asking forgiveness? What can we do to help mend this?
That is what bothered me a lot about the changes in “understandings”.
The circular self-justification can be so frustrating. I used to try making that point about changing doctrines, because it such an obvious one. After awhile, I just like I was beating my head against a wall. They just argued in circles.
I remember like it was yesterday my mom at the door with JWs talking about how you know a church isn’t from God—if they change their teachings. Then Stanton changed their teachings over and over (annually, in fact, just like the Baptist convention), and they just excuse themselves.
I’m one of those adult kids….thanks to therapy I’m learning to let go of a lot of the hate I have. I have come to terms I will never have the relationship I long for with my mother but it pushes me to be the best mom I can be for my kids & remind them I will always be here. I have always said if I learned anything from that place & my childhood is the type of person & parent I never want to be..unlike them I value my relationships.
Wanted to share a parable that I found on another blog and thought was interesting. The Parable of the Legalistic Steward The owner of an orchard left instructions for his steward, “Do not allow anyone to pick fruit from the tree in the center of the orchard while I am away on my journey.” The steward thought how best to follow these instructions. He decided to make a sign to post near the tree. It read, “Do not pick fruit from this tree.” The next day the steward went out to survey the orchard. He saw several children playing tag… Read more »
Thank you AFP! The church teachers/leaders/rule enforcers/ rule makers can’t stand the word legalistic used in a negative way to describe them because they consider the New Testament to BE a legalistic set of rules to be adhered to; just like the Jews had to adhere to the old law. Rather than reject legalism they fully embrace it. Since the laws/ rules aren’t spelled out in plain order like in the Torah the church needs special brethren to guide the church, protect its purity and enforce it’s interpretation of the New Testament ‘law’.
Yeah, I’ve never really heard legalism taught on or mentioned of in the SCOC either. I think the one time I heard it talked about was when, like you pointed out, a teacher was offended when someone at the doors accused them of being legalistic and easily recognized what the SCOC were about. The technical definition of legalism is: “A strict adherence to a set of laws, or moral principles”. A lot of people get confused when talking about legalism because people use it to mean different things. Places like the SCOC have no problem with it because they think… Read more »
Great Parable, AFP. I had never heard of legalism either until I left Merie’s church. I had heard that my cousin was in a cult church and had gotten out, and when I called her, “legalism” was one of the first terms she used. She was going to the ICOC-Boston Movement, I believe. They had started to cut her off from family, etc. But she caught on early enough. It’s an important term and we should all know an understand it to further avoid such groups, as well as teach our loved ones. These groups cause more to become alienated… Read more »
Glad your cousin was able to get out. I didn’t know much about the ICOC until I started researching cults and stumbled across them. That youtube video where they did a documentary/news story about them back in I think the 90’s(?), and hearing from the ex-members about what they were practicing was pretty crazy. Having the people you “disciple” under basically stalking you all the time, and interrogating every aspect of peoples personal lives. I think they also tried to regulate relationships and marriages, with similar marriage-bed teachings to other cults. Also as a side note, and this is just… Read more »
My description of legalism:
Those trying to appear spirituality mature by focusing on external cooperations while ignoring the motives of the heart!
That’s a great description too, and what I was kind of getting at with my long-winded point about focusing on wearing jeans instead of the motives, lol. This is what I mean about people explaining it in different ways. Some focus on the heart (Matthew 15:8, Matthew 23:27). Some focus on the law, or adding to it (Matthew 15, Mark 7, Galatians 2:16-21). Some focus on the lack of grace and mercy (John 8, Matthew 9, Matthew 12, Matthew 23). I’m sure most people can give many other examples in scripture, but the point I was making is that people… Read more »